This has nothing to do with being heterosexual or homosexual.
This has to do with the people you hang around with.
There's an old saying that goes something like this: "You are what you hang around with." It's probably not the true quote, but the meaning behind it asks us what type of people we are surrounded by?
Positive people are attracted to positive people.
The same goes with negative people.
It's true you may be one of those positive people whom negative people cling to, but watch out so they don't bring you down to their level.
I know a number of people who seem to have such a negative energy about themselves that just standing next to them sucks the life right out of you. Don't let this happen to you. There's nothing wrong with cutting them off and saying something like this: "Sorry, I've got to get going."
Or you could just walk away from them. I know that's a hard approach for many but try it if you find it difficult to break away.
What about trying to change them? You may have a better chance at winning the Powerball. If you want to give it a shot, you could try flipping everything they say with something positive. Try this exchange:
Negative Person: "I can't believe it. The unemployment rate is 9%. No wonder I can't get a job."
Positive Person: "9%? That means there is 91% employment."
Or for those writers out there . . .
NP: "I sent out ten query letters and they all came back rejected. What the hell am I going to do?"
PP: "Ten rejections? That's great! That means you just found ten agents who weren't good enough to represent you."
This last one may be a little play on words, for there could be other reasons why NP got ten rejections, but you see my overall point.